Tuesday, February 28, 2017

Tuesday Coffee Chat

I'm Tuesday-ing and Coffee Chatting a little earlier than normal these days.

At the end of last year I decided to get serious about doing those four things each morning that always make my day go better: getting up early for coffee and quiet time, studying my Bible, exercising, and getting ready (from mascara to shoes), hopefully all before the kids get up to start their day. My start time was 7:00 a.m., but I found that I was feeling rushed. So last week I started setting my alarm for 6:30 a.m. Funny thing is, I actually wake up before then anyway. Now I am just being intentional about actually getting out of bed, or at least getting my cup of coffee and climbing back in bed for my quiet time.

So let's Chat on this Tuesday:

Who do you trust most?

I don't like this topic. The short answer is: No one. There are lots of long answers, a long answer for every human I know, but I choose not to share.

So I'll leave it at this ... I think we are too infallible as humans to be trustworthy.

Think about it. Is there really, truly any one person who would not under any circumstances betray you or your trust in some way? I don't think we are capable of it! We can try, but we fail. How many times a day, week, month, year do we look back on our own reaction to something and say, "Why did I do that? Why did I say that? Why did I react that way?" Our human frailties cause us to react in ways we never, ever thought we would. And in the process of that we betray someone.

Each person in my life has betrayed my trust in some way, and not necessarily because they meant to do it.

The Bible continually instructs us to trust in God and God alone. Nowhere does it tell us to trust people, but only Him.

Only in God can we trust. Only in God can we take our greatest fears, weaknesses, confessions and KNOW that they will not be handled in a hurtful way.

It may seem cynical of me to say that I do not trust people. But, really, I think it's unfair to put that much pressure on any one person, to hold him or her up to a standard that he or she cannot meet. Instead, I choose to trust God, love people, and forgive them when they fail me as I hope they forgive me when I fail them.


  1. Amen amen AMEN!! I could not possibly agree with you more, Nicole! :)

  2. I love how you did clarify your remarks with what I think is a very important statement: the responsibility we place upon one another being unreasonable. We are completely imperfect. And while it may sound negative or pessimistic, I think diver deeper as you have done shows that it is not truly; but rather quite freeing in that we release one another from such a pressure. And put our trust where it won't be broken. And thankfully, we know also about grace, so that instead simply extend that to one another in our failings. Well said!


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